Wednesday 30 September 2009
Dark and thin and young and lovely,
The girl from Ipanema goes walking..
And when she passes, he smiles,
But she doesn’t see…she just doesn’t see.
- The Girl from Ipanema
Not being dark, thin, young, or lovely does have its advantages, one of them being that I do tend to notice things, especially over here. I’ve come to realize that comfort and privilege can warp your perspective, opacifying the lens through which you perceive the world around you and even interfering with the formation of fundamental values. At home, I live a life blessed with every possible creature comfort, many of which I just take for granted. Being in a place with, shall we say, diminished comforts and somewhat minimal privileges can be enlightening. It is amazing to me how one’s perceptions of pleasure and comfort can change so rapidly. Small, seemingly insignificant or irrelevant things are capable of providing great happiness in the right situation.
I’ve been traveling some with a full Colonel, and we have been searching forward operating bases throughout the theatre for a bar of soap. For some reason, you can’t buy a regular bar of soap at Bagram, right now. There is plenty of the gel and soft stuff, but this gentleman is kind of an effete New Englander and prefers an old-fashioned bar of soap. I can appreciate the old-school tendencies. Anyway, we finally found some at a FOB, recently, and beside himself with glee, he bought 5 bars- one for each of the next five months. I couldn’t surgically remove the smile off of this guy’s face, and despite a night spent listening to an artillery battery firing illumination rounds over the wire, he recounts that trip as the best one of our deployment. Now, I’m sure that three months ago, a trip to the drugstore to buy soap would have been an afterthought at best, a nuisance at worst. Here, it has been a highlight of the past month for him. The pleasure that he receives from that soap is now sincere, real.
I recently acquired a small rug to put on the floor between my bed and locker. I can’t tell you how many times it has crossed my mind as I get out of my rack that it is so nice to have a piece of carpet to step on. Would that ever occur to me at home?
I am thankful for this experience in many ways. Perhaps that most important of these is that I will return home with a much greater appreciation for the wonderful family, friends, and incredible life with which I’ve been blessed.
Joe,
ReplyDeleteYou have captured (and penned better than I ever could) the greatest part of my experience in the Marines. Jenny and I are thankful every day for that experience and for how it opened the eyes of two people who grew up without a care in the world. We hope to never forget those hardships and the resulting appreciation for everything we have.
Your description of waking up to a piece of carpet on the floor brings back great memories of asking a wise Staff Sergeant what the little roll of carpet was for when he loaded it on the helicopter for a deployment. "Floor mat for my rack Sir." Needless to say we all had a little roll of carpet for subsequent deployments!
Adding to what Milan just said, I feel entirely gluttonous right now as I stare at a Costco pack of soap bars in our cabinet. What an absolute gift to enjoy the simple pleasures in life...
ReplyDeleteHey Joe, Curt shared your blog with me and your writing and perspectives made my eyes swell. Everyone needs their soul touched now and then and thanks for touching mine. As Remi says read to me Mom(as she is is now) I think how lucky I am to have that moment and how many times I didn't appreciate that opportunity just to be there. You are in our thoughts and prayers!
ReplyDeleteImpressive commentary. I was in Baghdad in August as a US Customs Advisor in August and will be in Bagram at the end of October. I'm from Honolulu and a friend of Provost Marshal Don Devaney. Maybe we'll see each other.
ReplyDeleteCreighton Goldsmith, CBP
Hi there. The Colonel is my dad. Mom found out about your blog and was impressed with how you told his story. Without a doubt that's my dad. I've seen that smile at the bottom of a ski trail after having made tracks in fresh powder. Who would have imagined that a bar (or 5 bars) of soap would evoke that same smile. Mom and I have enjoyed your descriptions of what it is like over there. Thanks.
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